So we're as happy as can be!
We're planning apply for a tourist visa late next week and so excited to have the opportunity to know each other more. We're both becoming more focused and working on what he'll do while I'm at work and where he'll stay when he's here.
I think it's a good idea for him to stay close by but not actually at my place. We're still getting to
Know each other do it's good we each have our own space to breathe a little and think about our relationship when we're not together.
Looking forward to him picking me up for dates. We'll still cook dinner at mine and see each other in the mornings :) or that's at least what we hope will happen. We'll just have to wait and see.
For now I think I'm getting ahead of myself... We need to wait for visa approval but I'm confident that it'll go well.
He's been working at his current job in Fiji for 3years and has a great relationship with his boss. We have a place for him to say in Aus and all expenses covered. A bank statement that is hopefully more than sufficient thank God.
When I spoke with the Aust Embassy they said we needed a minimum of $1000 per month that the visitor will be in Australia. I've got a friend who's sponsoring him for me which is really nice.
I think all the bases are covered
Proof of intention to return to Fiji - Work tenure letter and payslip. Approval of leave.
Proof of having financial Support - Sponsor Letter and bank statement
Proof of being a genuine visitor - Invitation letter
I think all the bases are covered. Now it'll just be a point of submitting and waiting a week then the next chapter of our journey can finally begin :)
Good luck to all of you out there going through the heartache of long distance.
Till next time... :)
Wednesday 25 July 2012
Tuesday 24 July 2012
So it was all just in my head...
So since yesterdays post it seems everything i was thinking may have just been from my own insecurities and stress.
We had a good talk tonight and he assured me that he's fine and was just hungover from the weekend. Simple explanation.
He's soon to come to Oz so we can get to know each other better so It'll probably help me not to keep jumping to these conclusions ;-)
Posting on this blog for all you Aussie girls that are new to seeing a Fijian guy :) because I wish I had something recent to refer to when I first started dating my Fijian man. Best of luck to you all xx
We had a good talk tonight and he assured me that he's fine and was just hungover from the weekend. Simple explanation.
He's soon to come to Oz so we can get to know each other better so It'll probably help me not to keep jumping to these conclusions ;-)
Posting on this blog for all you Aussie girls that are new to seeing a Fijian guy :) because I wish I had something recent to refer to when I first started dating my Fijian man. Best of luck to you all xx
Monday 23 July 2012
We've made it 9 months in...
We're still going at nine months.
Its really been hard especially the distance...
We're organizing a tourist visa to for 3months because I need to know him more face to face. He's organizing funds for the visa and flight all on his own which is great! To date, haven't sent him a single dollar and he's keeping in contact through Skype as often as he can.
He's been really down lately and just not himself over the last few weeks though...
He went out drinking the other weekend and lost his phone. A very common thing that happens with Fijians so just a heads up, they don't hold their alcohol too well and don't have a sense of when to stop from what I've seen. Luckily I had some of his families numbers so I could get in touch with him.
It's starting to get rocky again to be honest but isn't that what happens in relationships?
Contact has picked up a lot since my last post. We message usually about 5 times a day each way. And Skype about 2 times a week for about an hour each time. Lately I've been calling him a few times a day because I found a cheap prepaid plan.
For all of u that are wondering, GT Mobile is really great to call Fiji from Australia! 16c a min and 29c flagfall! Cheapest I've found and u an order the sim card and recharge online.
Getting back to it... I spoke to him the day after his big night out and he sounded so depressed and started saying things like 'I have no life' and 'your too good for me'. Not sure why he would say that but he's been really down so I'm just trying to make sense of it all and figure out what's going on...
He said he really needs me during this time so I've been calling extra, checking in on him and just trying to keep him positive. I called his family members too and asked them to keep an eye out if he's really down for support. I'm worried about him...
Anyway, over the last few days the tone ive gotten from him has been short and not really wanting to talk for long after that initial conversation regardless of my expressing my care for him and letting him know im there for him and being as supportive as I can given there's an ocean between us.
Till tonight I didn't even think of unfaithfulness because most nights I speak with him he's at work or at home and we connect. Today he hasnt really wanted to talk. Called about 3 times for about 2mins each because we just wouldn't be talking then he'd ask if I could call back later which is fair enough.
Tonight though... I called and he was at a pool hall I think but he said somthing else... Anyway what he said didn't add up. When I called to say goodnight I asked if he was at work or at home and he just paused... Then he said he was sleeping at a friends place... We just both paused and in the brief silence there was tension. He softened his words from the last few days shortness and asked me to call him in the morning... There was no 'goodnight' or 'i love you' that we usually say at the end of our conversations then it hit me... I felt like he was cheating on me then and there...
He said he wants to Skype with me tomorrow but he can't because he has no money. I think for the first time ever he's hinting at me to send some but I'm worried he might just go buy alcohol with it given his state of mind at the moment...
I'm really confused and leaning towards not continuing with the relationship. But then i tell myself That im commited and need to stick By him through tough times too...
He's seeming a emotionally unstable and won't talk much about it do I understand what he's going through... I'm worried that when and if he still comes to Aus what will happen... He's strong. I'm scared that if he's unstable and there's issues I don't know about that I'll be stuck in a big mess without having anyway out...
In saying that, I love him and want to help him through this. I want this to work but I don't know much about how I can help him or do more than I am.
As the for the unfaithfulness, I don't even know if it's there or not and probably never will... Do I trust my instincts or am I over thinking this?
I'm uncertain if the relationship will be even in the giving and taking...
I need a little food for thought. Let me know what you all think.
Vinanka
Its really been hard especially the distance...
We're organizing a tourist visa to for 3months because I need to know him more face to face. He's organizing funds for the visa and flight all on his own which is great! To date, haven't sent him a single dollar and he's keeping in contact through Skype as often as he can.
He's been really down lately and just not himself over the last few weeks though...
He went out drinking the other weekend and lost his phone. A very common thing that happens with Fijians so just a heads up, they don't hold their alcohol too well and don't have a sense of when to stop from what I've seen. Luckily I had some of his families numbers so I could get in touch with him.
It's starting to get rocky again to be honest but isn't that what happens in relationships?
Contact has picked up a lot since my last post. We message usually about 5 times a day each way. And Skype about 2 times a week for about an hour each time. Lately I've been calling him a few times a day because I found a cheap prepaid plan.
For all of u that are wondering, GT Mobile is really great to call Fiji from Australia! 16c a min and 29c flagfall! Cheapest I've found and u an order the sim card and recharge online.
Getting back to it... I spoke to him the day after his big night out and he sounded so depressed and started saying things like 'I have no life' and 'your too good for me'. Not sure why he would say that but he's been really down so I'm just trying to make sense of it all and figure out what's going on...
He said he really needs me during this time so I've been calling extra, checking in on him and just trying to keep him positive. I called his family members too and asked them to keep an eye out if he's really down for support. I'm worried about him...
Anyway, over the last few days the tone ive gotten from him has been short and not really wanting to talk for long after that initial conversation regardless of my expressing my care for him and letting him know im there for him and being as supportive as I can given there's an ocean between us.
Till tonight I didn't even think of unfaithfulness because most nights I speak with him he's at work or at home and we connect. Today he hasnt really wanted to talk. Called about 3 times for about 2mins each because we just wouldn't be talking then he'd ask if I could call back later which is fair enough.
Tonight though... I called and he was at a pool hall I think but he said somthing else... Anyway what he said didn't add up. When I called to say goodnight I asked if he was at work or at home and he just paused... Then he said he was sleeping at a friends place... We just both paused and in the brief silence there was tension. He softened his words from the last few days shortness and asked me to call him in the morning... There was no 'goodnight' or 'i love you' that we usually say at the end of our conversations then it hit me... I felt like he was cheating on me then and there...
He said he wants to Skype with me tomorrow but he can't because he has no money. I think for the first time ever he's hinting at me to send some but I'm worried he might just go buy alcohol with it given his state of mind at the moment...
I'm really confused and leaning towards not continuing with the relationship. But then i tell myself That im commited and need to stick By him through tough times too...
He's seeming a emotionally unstable and won't talk much about it do I understand what he's going through... I'm worried that when and if he still comes to Aus what will happen... He's strong. I'm scared that if he's unstable and there's issues I don't know about that I'll be stuck in a big mess without having anyway out...
In saying that, I love him and want to help him through this. I want this to work but I don't know much about how I can help him or do more than I am.
As the for the unfaithfulness, I don't even know if it's there or not and probably never will... Do I trust my instincts or am I over thinking this?
I'm uncertain if the relationship will be even in the giving and taking...
I need a little food for thought. Let me know what you all think.
Vinanka
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